“At this age, I imagined…” Silvina Escudero welcomes us at her home in Nordelta and talks about the dreams she postponed
It’s four in the afternoon on the hottest day in January and Silvina Escudero (38) opens the door of her house with almost ready makeup and a smile. The temperature is close to 40 degrees, but the heat does not care. Owner of an extensive career as a dancer, businesswoman and actress (last year, she shone on the TV show Jey Mammon as a panelist), Silvina is, above all, a professional and the heat wave that plagues a large part of Argentina does not manage to intimidate her.
Outside, the cicadas howl at the heat, Mulata, Titán and Branca –the dogs that live with her and Federico, her boyfriend– flutter around her, while Afrika, the Siamese twin a fan gave her, rests on her bed. “They have a door to go in and out, so I have to sweep triple, but I want them to be happy,” she explains, “I can’t imagine life without them. I would tell you that it is even uncomfortable for me when I go to someone’s house and there are no animals. I don’t know who to pet!” [Se ríe].
-Pope Francis recently said that people who have pets instead of children are selfish.
His remark seemed unsympathetic to me. There are people who want to have children and cannot and others who find it very difficult to adopt. I believe that filling the family with animals, especially those that were abandoned, is an act of great generosity.
Do you dream of being a mother?
-Of course. I was always maternal, protective and very educated. Not only to our animals, but also to my nephews [Benicio (7) y Joaquina (5), los hijos de su hermana Vanina y Álvaro Navia] and the children of my friends. I dream of being pregnant, I visualize myself with a giant belly. But it still hasn’t happened.
-Years ago you froze eggs…
–At the moment, it is not in my plans to use them. Today, I would search naturally.
-Would you be a single mother? Did you think about it?
–Yes, because I have a lot of love to give and because I don’t need someone to solve that dream. Beyond the education, love and support that my parents gave me, nobody helped me financially, and the reality is that I am very well armed to be a single mother, if that were the case.
–After years of much exposure, now you protect your courtship from the media. Why?
“Actually, I think I’m protecting myself. I exposed myself a lot, people knew a lot about my life, and, at one point, I understood how important it is for your peace of mind to protect certain things. I started therapy and made the decision to take care of my privacy. I think it was also a matter of age.
–Speaking of age, in two years you will be 40.
-It is not long before the change of the decade, but I feel with the same energy that I had when I was twenty. The age that appears on my document does not reflect at all the spiritual age with which I live, love and work.
–What have you gained since you retired from mobile television ping-pong to defend yourself against this or that rumour?
– I gained peace of mind. Today, my motto is that everyone does what they want. I no longer answer, nor explain more. I am very clear that those who love you will always think well of you and those who don’t will always think badly. Journalism and the public have the right to criticize. But my life is not based on the gaze of others.
–Your consecration in the media came in 2009, when you became champion of Bailando… You had strong clashes with Moria Casán and Graciela Alfano. Do you regret having entered the media game?
-For me it was not a game, it was life itself. With Moria I never fought. It was just once, that he spoke badly to me and that was it. She is the best and we get along great. Regarding Graciela, I defended myself against accusations from a woman who had been Matías Alé’s ex, my partner at the time. She apologized to me afterwards.
–The question was if you regret having been so exposed.
-No, because it was part of an apprenticeship.
– How were the goals with Matías Alé?
Well, I run into him every so often. You have to know how to let go of the people who hurt you too.
–What would you recommend to the Silvina of that time?
–I would tell him not to take things so seriously and that everything is a lie, except for his old friends and his family.
– Was it in your plans to become a star?
-Not at all. I had been working as a dancer for years when I auditioned for my first revue with Carmen Barbieri. For me, it was just another casting. That day, we were two thousand dancers and she said: “Let’s see that girl in the blue outfit”. And I was selected.
–What did you do before?
-Of everything. With Vanina, we started when I was 13 and she was 15. Our first job was to choreograph Roberto Giordano’s fashion shows. Later, I went on tour with Manuel Wirtz, I did theater, and, while I was studying Veterinary medicine, I was a dancer in the Maradona program and in the Repetto program.
–Were you exposed to instances of harassment or abuse?
–Perhaps an unnecessary spanking to go on stage or some strange proposal by a producer, who did not go beyond that. I was always very responsive at the time. It also helped that dad [Enrique] will join me. Until four years ago, I went everywhere with him.
Tell us something about your boyfriend.
In two months we will be five years old. We are very simple in our tastes. There are couples who need to make extravagant trips, we are happy sitting on a bench, drinking mate, with our animals. What I like most about him is his ability to de-dramatize. For him, nothing is as terrible as it is for me and that lowers my anxiety.
–How did you meet?
–I was with Caro and Gurfa, two lifelong friends, and he came to talk to me. He gave me his phone, but I didn’t call him. He spent a year writing to me on Instagram and I didn’t even know about it. A year later, I ran into him again. “Silvina, you never called me,” he told me. And then I thought: “Well, it’s him. Let’s see”. We chatted for three months before seeing each other. I wanted to know who he was, where he lived, what he did…
-The first date?
–I asked him to go with his dog to a place in San Isidro. The three of us went out: him, Branca and me. I didn’t let him come looking for me, because I didn’t want him to know where I lived. Also, I sent the location to my friends because I’m very suspicious. He rowed it on asphalt. [Se ríe].
-During the quarantine they separated. Why?
Yes, we were separated for six months. We cut because the quarantine was insufferable for me. He was late because he had authorization to work and I spent my time at home cleaning. The lack of work unsettled me, I didn’t know what to do, it was terrible for me.
Do you have plans to get married?
-We talked about it many times, but now I don’t have it so clear. I always had the fantasy of getting married and with age, the desire was diluted. I threw myself into my career. You plan and then life shows you other scenarios, which may not be the ones you dreamed of, but which can also make you happy. There are things that I dreamed of and that were given to me and others that were not. At this age, I imagined myself married and with children, and life offered me another proposal. God will know…
Thanks: @alejandra.giudice (makeup) and @axdanel (hairstyle)